Tough Love

So I've spent the last month or so trying ot take care of a very beloved family member, a task much maligned by a number of my friends for the toll it has taken on my health (more mental than physical).  That is a tradeoff I have been willing to make, because I can always recover, whereas the woman I am helping to take care of is at the end of her live.  That being said...

I believe in Tough Love.  I have tried, for nearly a month, to be as helpful and assisting as I possibly can.  Unfortunately, as I have known for a good many years, giving someone something is not the same as teaching them to do it on their own.  I have only ever been able to teach this lesson through...difficulty.  Threats, usually in the form of leaving someone somewhere, have worked wonders for me in my attempts to teach people a bit about their inner strengths (for those of you who are familiar with what happened with my Anu, or my mom, you know what i am talking about).  I have had to teach that same lesson to the person I am helping now, in the form of a very basic threat: 

Get yourself healthy, or die.

This is a lesson which I wish I were able to teach a great many more people, but I quite simply do not know how.  Also, while I am able to teach in a one-on-one setting,, I cannot think of any easy way to teach what I know in any setting other than one-on-one, and, well, that's a ton of time spent with individuals.